How compatible are ESTP and ISFJ patterns of communicating, thinking, and working?
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Gregory Park, Ph.D.
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In this article, you’ll find a comparison of ESTPs and ISFJs across five important personality domains: Interpersonal/Communication Style, Emotional Style, Intellectual Style, and Organizational Style.
One important note: the following comparisons cannot be made simply by comparing the cognitive functions (letters) of each personality type.
For this analysis, TraitLab gathered data about personality traits from thousands of participants who identified themselves as a particular type in the 16 Personality or Myers-Briggs framework.
The comparisons here show the average similarities and differences between ESTPs and ISFJs. However, remember that all personality types are oversimplifications. For an assessment of your unique position in these areas, you’ll need a personalized assessment that doesn’t rely on personality types.
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Your particular style of communicating and interacting with others can be described fairly well by two dimensions: assertiveness and warmth.
Assertiveness describes your tendency to assert yourself, lead, and influence others in social situations, while warmth describes your tendencies to empathize and put others’ needs ahead of your own.
People with the same personality type often share some similarities in assertiveness and warmth. In the graph below, you can see where most ESTPs and most ISFJs fall along both of these dimensions.
First, take a look at where people in each type, on average, fall in this interpersonal space.
ESTPs are assertive, competitive, and like a good challenge. At their best, they are bold and confident leaders who are willing to take unpopular action. ESTPs may be overly proud, boisterous, and willing to manipulate others to achieve their goals. At their worst, they can be narcissistic, overly focused on their own needs, and lack empathy for others.
ISFJs often respect others, conform to expectations, and ask for guidance. At their best, they are loyal and reliable, and encourage others to guide and help. ISFJs may be overly clingy, gullible, and have difficulty expressing anger, even when appropriate. At their worst, they will try to please others too much, put others’ needs ahead of their own, and allow others to take advantage of them.
As an ESTP, one notable difference between you and most ISFJs is in your interpersonal warmth. You are likely on the colder, more combative side of the spectrum. Compared to you and other ESTPs, ISFJs’ can sometimes feel overly focused on feelings and intentions, rather than the facts of the matter at hand.
Another important difference between you and most ISFJs is in your relative assertiveness and dominance in social situations. Like many ESTPs, you tend to be on the more assertive side and feel comfortable taking charge and making decisions. Often, this pairs well with ISFJs more reserved and passive style, but you’ll want to be careful about being overly domineering, forceful, or direct. Unlike you, ISFJs may need additional time and space to share their thoughts and ideas.
Another characteristic of your personality is your emotional style — your tendencies towards different kinds of moods. There are two dimensions that influence emotional style: arousal and valence.
Arousal describes your relative energy level across different situations. Those with high baseline levels of arousal tend to be generally more alert, active, and engaged, while those with a lower baseline are more reserved, subdued, and inhibited.
Valence describes whether these moods tend to be positive (pleasant) or negative (unpleasant). People with a more positively valenced style are more likely to experience emotions like joy, enthusiasm, satisfaction, and serenity. People with a more negatively valenced style are more likely to experience sadness, frustration, dissatisfaction, and anxiety.
The graph below shows where each type, on average, usually sits in this emotional space.
ESTPs tend to be energetic and enthusiastic across most situations. They take on new challenges with excitement, confidence, and a sense of adventure. ESTPs are usually more optimistic than most people, and they generally feel like they can handle what life throws at them.
ISFJs have a tendency to be quiet and inhibited. Compared to most people, they can easily drift into gloom and melancholy. They see the glass as half-empty and have a more skeptical outlook and a hesitant approach to life. For better or worse, ISFJs tend to notice the negatives in most situations. In stressful times, they are more likely to withdraw quietly and retreat inward, rather than share their frustration with others.
As with most ESTPs, you tend to have a higher baseline energy level than most ISFJs. Between the two of you, you are more likely to seek out engaging activities — perhaps social events, outdoor adventures, or a new class, depending on your interests. However, you may find that most ISFJs do not share your enthusiasm and excitement. In general, you likely crave stimulation more than your ISFJ counterparts, and balancing your different appetites for excitement can be an ongoing challenge.
Another difference between ESTPs and ISFJ is in their typical emotional valence, which describes tendencies towards positive or negative emotions. You and most ESTPs tend to fall on the more positive side. Compared to most ISFJs, you and most ESTPs experience positive emotions such as joy, satisfaction, and happiness more often than most ISFJs. ISFJs have the opposite pattern, and they tend to gravitate towards more negative emotions.
These subtle emotional differences often surface in your reactions to new information. The same news that sparks enthusiasm in you and most ESTPs can induce worry in ISFJs. Compared to ESTPs, most ISFJs may need additional time and space to recover from stress.
Your intellectual style describes how you receive, process, and pursue different kinds of information. Differences in intellectual style are captured well by two dimensions: ideas and aesthetics.
Ideas describes your appetite for new information and your interest in complex, challenging material. People high on the ideas dimension have an appreciation for complexity and technical details. People lower on ideas are less interested in learning for learning’s sake, and they prefer to simplify complex topics down to the essential details.
Aesthetics captures your relative interest and sensitivity to aesthetic information and its emotional impact. People higher on the aesthetics dimension usually have strong artistic interests and a deep appreciation for beauty in many forms. Those lower on aesthetics tend to value practical application over artistic merit and usually adhere to more conventional standards of beauty.
In the graph below, you’ll see where ESTPs and ISFJs, on average, fall in this intellectual space.
Most ESTPs and ISFJs overlap heavily in their intellectual style.
ESTPs and ISFJs are practical realists. They focus on building practical skills and essential knowledge and are less likely to spend time learning for learning’s sake. In addition, they usually value conventional, tangible accomplishments over artistic expression and rarely feel compelled to develop a creative outlet.
As an ESTP, you and most ISFJs are down-to-earth, straightforward thinkers. You’d both prefer to stick to the essentials and focus on practical issues, and you try to avoid overcomplicating matters. When you and your ISFJ counterpart are together, your conversations are more likely to revolve around concrete details, facts, and conventional topics rather than theoretical or philosophical ones.
Likewise, ESTPs and ISFJs share an appreciation for practical, tangible accomplishments over artistic expression. ESTPs and ISFJs are both likely to embrace conventional ways of thinking, and both types are more skeptical of eccentric or unusual approaches to solving problems.
Your organizational style describes your habits around organization and planning. Your organizational style influences how you structure your time and physical space. Differences in organizational style fall along two dimensions: industriousness and orderliness.
Industriousness describes your persistence, need for achievement, and intensity of focus. People higher on industriousness usually organize their behavior around a few important long-term goals. People lower on industriousness are usually more focused on the present and will more easily change their focus when new opportunities appear.
Orderliness describes your need for regularity, order, and structure in your environment. People higher on orderliness prefer tidy, organized physical spaces, detailed schedules, and reliable routines. People lower on orderliness can tolerate more disorganization and prefer a more spontaneous, unstructured approach.
The graph below shows the average position of ESTPs and ISFJs along these dimensions of organizational style.
ESTPs often have big, ambitious goals, and they can be unusually resourceful. Once they’ve set their mind on a goal, they often pursue it with tremendous effort. However, ESTPs often resist highly structured, tedious approaches to achieving their goals. They’d rather avoid creating detailed plans and are more comfortable improvising and moving quickly with the resources they have on hand.
ISFJs are usually systematic and highly organized. They like setting big, long-term goals and then creating detailed plans to accomplish them. ISFJs are generally good at ignoring distractions and making steady progress through consistent routines and habits.
As an ESTP, you and most ISFJs share a natural drive to achieve and perform at a high level. Both of you enjoy setting goals and pushing yourselves to accomplish them, and you likely share an interest in self-improvement and productivity strategies. As a result, you and your ISFJ counterpart can fuel each other’s ambition and keep each other accountable as you work towards your long-term goals. However, between the two of you, nobody usually reminds you to slow down and enjoy the present.
One difference between ESTPs and ISFJs is in their relative need for routine, structure, and order. You and most ESTPs are more comfortable with an unplanned, spontaneous approach to life, while your ISFJ counterpart often wants plans, schedules, and well-defined procedures. ISFJs thrive on routine and predictability, whereas ESTPs find the same level of organization to be overbearing and constraining. These differences in tidiness, punctuality, and comfortability with deviating from social expectations can be a consistent source of conflict between the two of you.
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