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ENTJ in Relationships

Most ENTJs share a common interpersonal style and set of challenges.

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Most ENTJs share a similar interpersonal style, and this style impacts most of their relationships, including those with friends, families, work colleagues, and romantic partners.

Your interpersonal style describes your social tendencies in terms of dominance, submissiveness, warmth, and coldness. This style impacts how you interact with others, and in turn, it can affect how they act around you.

The circular graph below shows the average interpersonal style of ENTJs. The vertical, up-down axis shows their style in terms of dominance, with a highly assertive style at the top (Assured-Dominant) and a highly passive style at the bottom (Unassured-Submissive).

The horizontal, left-right axis shows their style in terms of warmth, with a cold and impersonal style on the left (Cold-Aggressive) and a friendly, empathetic manner on the right (Warm-Agreeable).

Typical interpersonal style of the ENTJ
How the ENTJ typically falls on common interpersonal dimensions

The shaded blue area shows the average interpersonal style of ENTJs across eight dimensions. Notice the areas where the blue area extends closer to the outer edges of the circle. These are the aspects that most heavily influence ENTJs’ interactions.

ENTJs’ high conscientiousness and extraversion combine to create a trusting and reliable interpersonal style.

To summarize the graph above, four aspects commonly appear in ENTJs’ interpersonal style:

Assured-Dominant

  • ENTJs often manage, direct, and try to lead others.
  • At their best, ENTJs provide guidance and leadership, and naturally command respect.
  • ENTJs may be domineering, forceful, or overly direct.
  • At their worst, ENTJs can be overbearing and micromanaging. 

Talkative-Extraverted

  • ENTJs often support, openly sympathize, and actively offer help to others
  • At their best, ENTJs are gentle sympathizers, who are easily trusted and accepted
  • ENTJs may be overly revealing and have difficulty being alone
  • At their worst, ENTJs can require too much attention and admiration from others and be excessively involved in the affairs of others

Warm-Agreeable

Some but not all ENTJs will have a Warm-Agreeablee aspect to their interpersonal style.

  • These ENTJs often agree, trust, and cooperate with others.
  • At their best, they are friendly, affectionate, and bring out the warmth and sympathy in others.
  • Friendlier ENTJs may be too agreeable and quick to compromise.
  • At their worst, they may seek approval and agreement too much, and be dependent on the approval of other people.

Cold-Aggressive

Other ENTJs will show considerably less interpersonally warmth, and their interpersonal style will be marked by the Cold-Aggressive aspect.

  • These ENTJs are forthright, firm, and speak their mind directly.
  • At their best, they are fiercely independent and unaffected by the thoughts and opinions of others. 
  • Colder ENTJs may be harsh, frank, or insensitive in their criticism of others.
  • At their worst, they can be overly aggressive and too eager to fight and argue with others.
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