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Enneagram Type 6 and Type 5 Compatibility: Relationships, Friendships, and Partnerships

How compatible are the Enneagram Type 6 and Type 5 patterns of communicating, feeling, and thinking?

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In this article, you’ll find comparisons of two Enneagram types — Type 6s and Type 5s — across four important personality domains: Interpersonal/Communication Style, Emotional Style, Intellectual Style, and Organizational Style.

TraitLab collected data about personality traits from thousands of participants who identified as a single Enneagram type.

For each comparison area below, you’ll see show the average similarities and differences between Type 6s and Type 5s. While these comparisons are useful for understanding broad trends across these types, it’s important to remember that all personality types are oversimplifications. For an assessment of your unique personality, you’ll want to use an assessment that goes beyond single personality types.

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Type 6 and Type 5 Interpersonal and Communication Styles

Your particular style of communicating and interacting with others can be described fairly well by two dimensions: assertiveness and warmth.

Assertiveness describes your tendency to assert yourself, lead, and influence others in social situations, while warmth describes your tendencies to empathize and put others’ needs ahead of your own.

People with the same personality type often share some similarities in assertiveness and warmth. In the graph below, you can see where most Type 6s and most Type 5s fall along both of these dimensions.

First, take a look at where people in each type, on average, fall in this interpersonal space.

Enneagram Type 6 and Type 5 comparison across interpersonal dimensions
A comparison of Enneagram Type 6s and Type 5s along interpersonal dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of Type 6s, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of Type 6s fall in interpersonal space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for Type 5s.

Type 6s often respect others, conform to expectations, and ask for guidance. At their best, they are loyal and reliable, and encourage others to guide and help. Type 6s may be overly clingy, gullible, and have difficulty expressing anger, even when appropriate. At their worst, they will try to please others too much, put others’ needs ahead of their own, and allow others to take advantage of them.

Type 5s are forthright, firm, and speak their mind directly. At their best, they are fiercely independent and unaffected by the thoughts and opinions of others. Type 5s may be harsh, frank, or insensitive in their criticism of others. At their worst, they can be overly aggressive and too eager to fight and argue with others.

One notable difference between many Type 6s and most Type 5s is in your interpersonal warmth. Like many Type 6s, you are more likely on the warmer, friendlier, more empathetic side of the spectrum. Compared to you and other Type 6s, Type 5s’ interpersonal style can sometimes feel distant, cold, and uninterested in your wants and needs.

However, you and most Type 5s both tend to be on the more reserved and passive side in social situations. On one hand, this is a benefit: both of you tend to be reliable partners, ready and willing to help each other when needed. On the other hand, your mutual passivity can stall decisions and action, especially if both of you are waiting for the other to take the lead.

Type 6 and Type 5 Emotional Styles

Another characteristic of your personality is your emotional style — your tendencies towards different kinds of moods. There are two dimensions that influence emotional style: arousal and valence.

Arousal describes your relative energy level across different situations. Those with high baseline levels of arousal tend to be generally more alert, active, and engaged, while those with a lower baseline are more reserved, subdued, and inhibited.

Valence describes whether these moods tend to be positive (pleasant) or negative (unpleasant). People with a more positively valenced style are more likely to experience emotions like joy, enthusiasm, satisfaction, and serenity. People with a more negatively valenced style are more likely to experience sadness, frustration, dissatisfaction, and anxiety.

The graph below shows where each type, on average, usually sits in this emotional space.

Type 6 and Type 5 comparison across emotional (affective) dimensions
A comparison of Type 6s and Type 5s along emotional (or affective) dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of Type 6s, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of Type 6s fall in interpersonal space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for Type 5s.

Type 6s have a tendency to be quiet and inhibited. Compared to most people, they can easily drift into gloom and melancholy. They see the glass as half-empty and have a more skeptical outlook and a hesitant approach to life. For better or worse, Type 6s tend to notice the negatives in most situations. In stressful times, they are more likely to withdraw quietly and retreat inward, rather than share their frustration with others.

Type 5s tend to be reserved, laid-back, and content. They often see the glass as half-full, confident that things will eventually work out for the best. Type 5s typically respond to challenges with quiet optimism and rarely become overwhelmed when things get difficult. When their efforts fail, they calmly dust themselves off and try again.

Like many Type 6s, you and most Type 5s tend to be on the more reserved and quiet side. You both prefer to sit back and observe, and the two of you are usually perfectly happy with lower levels of excitement and stimulation. You understand each other’s need for personal space and solitude, and you are both content to leave each other to do their own thing.

One difference between Type 6s and Type 5s in their typical emotional valence, or their tendencies towards positive and negative emotions. You and most Type 6s tend to fall on the more negative side. Compared to most Type 5s, you and most Type 6s typically experience more negative emotions like sadness, worry, frustration, and impatience. Type 5s have the opposite pattern, and they tend to gravitate toward positive emotions like enthusiasm, joy, and contentment.

These emotional differences can be subtle, but they may color how Type 6s and Type 5s process new information. You and most Type 6s are quicker to see the negatives and consider what could go wrong, while Type 5s might receive the same news with excitement and optimism.

Type 6 and Type 5 Intellectual Styles

Your intellectual style describes how you receive, process, and pursue different kinds of information. Differences in intellectual style are captured well by two dimensions: ideas and aesthetics.

Ideas describes your appetite for new information and your interest in complex, challenging material. People high on the ideas dimension have an appreciation for complexity and technical details. People lower on ideas are less interested in learning for learning’s sake, and they prefer to simplify complex topics down to the essential details.

Aesthetics captures your relative interest and sensitivity to aesthetic information and its emotional impact. People higher on the aesthetics dimension usually have strong artistic interests and a deep appreciation for beauty in many forms. Those lower on aesthetics tend to value practical application over artistic merit and usually adhere to more conventional standards of beauty.

In the graph below, you’ll see where Type 6s and Type 5s, on average, fall in this intellectual space.

Type 6 and Type 5 comparison across intellectual dimensions
A comparison of Type 6s and Type 5s along intellectual dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of Type 6s, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of Type 6s fall in intellectual space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for Type 5s.

Type 6s are practical realists. They focus on building practical skills and essential knowledge and are less likely to spend time learning for learning’s sake. In addition, they usually value conventional, tangible accomplishments over artistic expression and rarely feel compelled to develop a creative outlet.

Type 5s tend to be deep thinkers — bright, curious, and philosophical. They are highly receptive to new ideas and drawn to complex, abstract concepts. Type 5s enjoy taking in large amounts of information and typically have one or more creative outlets.

Like most Type 6s, you are less interested in learning purely for learning’s sake, compared to most Type 5s. You’d prefer to focus on the essentials and the practical issues at hand, while your Type 5 counterpart typically wants to dig deeper and understand the bigger picture. In conversations, you may find that your Type 5 partner often gets caught up in theoretical or abstract details, and you need to bring them back down to earth.

Another difference between Type 6s and Type 5s is their relative interest in aesthetic, artistic, and emotional experiences. As a Type 6, you tend to be more practical and focused on tangible results, while your Type 5 counterpart is more likely to be drawn into the emotional and artistic aspects of an experience. In addition, Type 6s and Type 5s often differ in their receptivity to unconventional and eccentric ways of thinking. Like many Type 6s, you often lean towards well-worn, conventional approaches and view new alternatives with healthy skepticism. In contrast, Type 5s are quicker to do away with convention and embrace a new approach.

Type 6 and Type 5 Organizational Styles

Your organizational style describes your habits around organization and planning. Your organizational style influences how you structure your time and physical space. Differences in organizational style fall along two dimensions: industriousness and orderliness.

Industriousness describes your persistence, need for achievement, and intensity of focus. People higher on industriousness usually organize their behavior around a few important long-term goals. People lower on industriousness are usually more focused on the present and will more easily change their focus when new opportunities appear.

Orderliness describes your need for regularity, order, and structure in your environment. People higher on orderliness prefer tidy, organized physical spaces, detailed schedules, and reliable routines. People lower on orderliness can tolerate more disorganization and prefer a more spontaneous, unstructured approach.

The graph below shows the average position of Type 6s and Type 5s along these dimensions of organizational style.

Type 6 and Type 5 comparison across organizational dimensions
A comparison of Type 6s and Type 5s along organizational dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of Type 6s, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of Type 6s fall in organizational space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for Type 5s.

Type 6s need clear structure, detailed processes, and standard procedures. They avoid improvising whenever possible, and Type 6s lean on highly structured routines and environments to help them maintain focus and avoid distractions.

Type 5s are usually systematic and highly organized. They like setting big, long-term goals and then creating detailed plans to accomplish them. Type 5s are generally good at ignoring distractions and making steady progress through consistent routines and habits.

Like many Type 6s, you and most Type 5 often differ in your need to achieve explicit goals and use your time productively. While you embrace the here and now, your Type 5 counterpart is often thinking about and planning for the future. When you are keeping your eyes out for new, interesting opportunities, Type 5s are usually working away with their heads down. This difference between your present-oriented mindset and their future-oriented one can create occasional tension. However, this difference also helps you balance the other out at times. Your Type 5 counterpart often needs you to break them out of their need for productivity and efficiency while they can provide you with additional focus and motivation.

However, Type 6s and Type 5s tend to be neat, tidy, and organized. You both rely on high amounts of structure and routine and compared to most people, you have lower tolerances for messiness and disorder. With a few exceptions, both of you stick closely to most social conventions and feel uncomfortable straying from them.

How to identify your most similar Enneagram type

Most people have complex personalities and can’t be described perfectly by a single Enneagram type.

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Enneagram Type 6 compatibility with other types

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Enneagram Type 6 Compatibility with Other 16 Personality Types

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